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It is an unusual situation you may find yourself in when attempting to show yourself as the best possible parent while proving the other parent is unfit. While many people believe the other parent is unfit the line is certainly not clear. What is unfit? If you poll 100 different Judges you will get 100 different definitions. Your desire to prove your former spouse unfit may lead you to take a more extreme position on the issues than you might normally take. You will not look good to the court by doing this.

There is no winner in a custody battle. The children involved certainly gain nothing regardless where they reside. At best you can only work to minimize the damage divorce brings to your children. Remember, your children are not possessions, they are people who have emotions and feelings. They love their parents, in most cases, both of them so you do a great deal of harm by attempting to damage your former spouse in your custody fight. Stay on high ground, you can win by being better prepared.

The first thing you should do in the beginning stages is get temporary custody. The old adage of possession being 9/10th of the law may come into play when the time comes for a decision to be made regarding where your children will reside. This move assumes you have hired a competent attorney who understands family law in your state. Don’t take the advice of your friend or anyone else who may advise you on how to proceed. Find the best lawyer in your community. Trust me, it will be money well spent.

Second on the list of importance is documentation. You must document everything no matter how insignificant you think it may be. No one every lost a custody battle by having too much documentation. Your emotions will be all over the place during this process and documenting things can help you sort out what is important and what is not. It also shows the court of your willingness to make an effort to keep custody of your children. You would be surprised how many parents don’t bother to do a simple thing like document everything in their quest for custody. Don’t inject opinions or sling mud in your documentation, just keep it factual.

These few tips can really make a difference in gaining custody of your children. For more Child Custody Strategies visit my website Getting Child Custody.

Dave Huffman, against the odds, gained custody of his 3 children after applying the principles learned from Dr. Barry Brickin and Dr. Gail Elliot

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It is a sad fact that of all Americans who have been married, one out of three has also experienced at least one divorce. With the vast majority of people in America being married one or more times, it is common knowledge that every couple goes through a few rocky patches. Many marital problems can be solved with open communication and a solid commitment to one another. For more serious issues, some couples turn to marital counseling and may find renewed strength at the end of that journey.

Unfortunately, some problems escalate into insurmountable barriers to a successful marriage. Generally these seemingly unsolvable issues stem from one or both partners refusing to address their problems while they are still manageable. Someone’s feelings get hurt, resentment festers, and eventually one spouse detaches emotionally from the other. The further into this cycle a couple is, the more likely they will find themselves in divorce court.

The downhill slide that ends in separation usually begins with communication problems. It may start with keeping secrets, and soon one or both spouses avoid talking to each other about marital problems or possibly even life in general. A failure to communicate with each other indicates a lack of trust, which is the foundation of marriage.

Shortly following a breakdown in communication, a partner may begin to employ personal defense mechanisms that will continue to weaken the marital bond. Stonewalling tactics, being overly defensive, or dismissing the other spouse’s feelings makes healthy conflict resolution impossible. Avoiding conflict or engaging in negative defense mechanisms serves only to poison a marriage.

On the other hand, a spouse may make multiple efforts to address marital problems only to be shut out by the other who is utilizing unhealthy defenses. Eventually the spouse making an effort to correct issues in the marriage will tire of being ignored and may even begin to distance his or herself from the other partner. At this point, it is highly likely that one or both spouses may give up entirely and lose any interest in saving the marriage.

Is there a “point of no return” when a marriage is doomed? Certainly there is. However, that point is different for each couple. The key to saving a marriage is willingness to save it. If one or both spouses have given up on their partnership, there is not much hope. For couples who have not given up, the road to marital recovery requires honesty, communication, patience, forgiveness and commitment. It is a long and bumpy road, but then so is the road to divorce.

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